REASONS TO GET MARRIED

I suppose there are readers now, so I should actually say hello and not just jump into whatever it is I intend to talk about. So, hello people! How are things going? As promised in the last post, today's post is by Myne Whitman. Myne is a romance novel author, who also runs an online magazine for contemporary Nigerian women (men are welcome too, of course) who aspire to positive and fulfilling relationships, at www.romancemeetslife.com. In this post, she talks about six interesting reasons to get married. Let's hear it first hand from someone who, first of all is married and then also has a passion for writing about romance. Enjoy.

                              

                                                    Reasons To Get Married.

1. You are a better person in so many ways.

Partners who are smart, honest and share their opinions and outlook with their spouses will improve them. They will challenge you on so many levels and this will bring out the best in you. There are the sayings that two heads are better than one and about iron sharpening iron, and they are true in a marriage. Spiritually, intellectually and all of the other -allies considered, the only way is up. Being married grounds you in a different way from just taking care of yourself. This is even more so when the children begin to come. You learn one of the best attributes of life, self sacrifice and commitment.

2. You are much happier and healthier.

When you marry a person you are compatible with, the chances are very high that you’ll be happier than you were when you were single. No man is an island. Most of us have been biologically and socially engineered to want a partner. This desire when attained will in the right conditions continue to yield fruits of happiness. Apart from that is the matter of spending lots of time with someone who cares for you, and who makes you happy. This is a major boost to your self esteem and will probably spill over to other aspects of your life, making you take more joy out of things you may not had even considered otherwise. Statistics have shown that this happiness translates to better health for married people and may even contribute to them living longer lives.

3. You can have better and more sex.

Yes you can quote me on this one, lol. There are also statistics to back me up. Most single people get little or no sex, especially when they are abstaining or are not in relationships. Even when hooked up, because relationships which do not quickly lead to marriage tend to break up after a while, many singletons experience long dry spells with no sex. This is not the case when married. While you may not make love every day of every week, you do get your regular doses and lovemaking being one of those activities that gets better with practice; you will definitely see an improvement and more enjoyment with time as you both learn each other, your likes and your dislikes.

4. You become more attractive

Married people tend to take more care with their appearances, not just to please their spouses but because of the boost that comes with being happier and getting regular doses of the chemicals released when someone has lots of sex. Anecdotes abound of men who say they begin to get hit on by women after they get married and the same goes for women. You are cleaner, take more care of yourself, begin to use the appropriate hygiene products you may have disregarded in the past and possibly you are also trying to keep fit and in shape at the local gym or in quality time with your spouse.

5. You are married to the father of your children

Let’s be honest here and tell ourselves the truth. There may be so many other ways and circumstances in which to have children and bring them up these days but experts still agree that the best way is in households with two parents in a committed relationship. There is a special joy in working together with a spouse to raise your children, the shared highs and lows, the pains and happiness, knowing that these offspring are from both of you and that if one is not there, the other would do any and everything humanly possible to take care of those children. 

6. You have better financial benefits and your net income increases.

When you look at it from the big picture, it is cheaper to cook for more than one, ditto for air line tickets and hotel rooms, also apartments and houses cost the same no matter how many people live in it, you get the general idea. Look at it this way; you are pooling resources together with your spouse and in some cases, getting an extra income into your household. While it is less likely (not impossible) that marriage may get you a promotion at work, it will sure get you tax breaks in some countries and maybe even access to better health plans and mortgages. 

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Myne can be found on Twitter as @Myne_Whitman

Back and Better...

While growing up, one of my favourite pastime activities has always been people watching. I may have dropped some habits (bad or good) but there are two things that have been constant all my life. Maybe, I'll talk about the first one some other time, but the second is definitely people watching. Airports, train stations, bus parks/stops/garages, shops, stores, wherever. So, about three weeks ago when I went for my cousin's graduation from law school, (which by the way was the most inspiring event I've been to in a while) I found myself people watching as usual. Old habits die hard. The parents and guardians cheering their children and wards while on their feet, the relatives and friends who didn't give a damn about standing under the sun, as long as doing it meant they were supporting the people they love and cherish; the loud and somewhat deafening cheer as each graduating student happily mounted the podium to receive diplomas they had previously burned the midnight candle for; the hugs these students received from families and friends; the after parties, receptions and the likes which turned out to be a mini reunion for some families; the food, delicacies, dishes, drinks and champagnes. All those things were epitomes of joy, celebration, achievement and laughter for me. You see, many of these families and friends had traveled down from different parts of the country to celebrate with their loved ones. While success is a beautiful thing on its own, it is even more beautiful when you achieve your lifelong goals and you see the people you love standing by you.

This is why, even though Loveoasis Magazine celebrates our wonderful couples, we always endeavour to celebrate and appreciate their magnanimous families and friends. Celebration is our forte, and only very few things give more joy than seeing two people who decide to spend the rest of their lives together. Hence, weddings are worth every bit of the celebrations that come with it

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Unfortunately, for a long while now, this blog has been quiet. Too quiet for what we initially planned for it. This of course is an inexcusable act, but there are some reasons. OK, some excuses :). For some months now, we have had the opportunity to take part in the weddings of some amazing couples and focusing on publishing more editions somehow made us neglect this blog. However, things are about to change. There will definitely be more blog posts henceforth. These blog posts will in no way be to display our erudition about certain things. Rather, let's say they will be sort of used to propitiate you. You may not get a hold of the deliciousness a.k.a the hard copies of various editions of Loveoasis Magazine, but that should not stop you from enjoying the content of the magazine here, on the blog. Therefore, just like the magazine's content; lifestyle, relationship, marriage, health, fashion, inspiration and even more, this blog will be for all and sundry. Now, I'm no raconteur or some sagacious superwoman who will always have amusing and savvy stories for you. What I can promise however is that, raconteurs, sagacious people who have lots of knowledge in one field or the other will be featured.

As convoluted as life can sometimes be, it's important to always find your happy place and learn to take leaps of faith no matter what. On my cousin's graduation day, some other schools in the city were having their graduation, but for undergraduates. Well, they are now graduates. I noticed the excitement and enthusiasm in them. I mean, these are people who have no clue of what the future holds for them. Most of whom, probably don't even know what to do next. But they chose to be happy anyway, to be excited and most of all to have faith. They probably may not have so much faith for a glamorous future, but I'm quite sure they believe that whatever the future brings, they will be able to handle it. The same can actually be said about newly weds; they decide to get married without knowing what life will bring their way. It is almost like going into a room that has its door open without even knowing what is behind that door. One thing makes the difference though; it's called 'a leap of faith'. Whether it's with a decision, or with someone, or with life choices, why don't you just quit approaching situations with so much difficulty and take a leap of faith.

Love,

Ifeoluwa.